CravnnSpeed dating for the first time: what to expect and how to prepare
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How a speed dating night usually works
Speed dating packs several short conversations into one evening. You sit or stand with one person at a time for a few minutes, a bell or a host moves everyone on, and you meet the next person. By the end of the night you will have spoken to a good number of people without the pressure of a full date with any of them.
Most organisers give you a card or a way to note who you liked. After the event they pass on contact details only where two people both chose each other. That means you do not have to ask anyone for their number in the room, which many first-timers find a relief.
Every organiser runs things a little differently, including how long each round lasts, how many people attend and whether events are split by age. Read the organiser's own page before you book, and ask them if anything is unclear.
What to expect, step by step
| Stage | What usually happens | What to do |
|---|---|---|
| Arrival | You check in and get a card or a number | Arrive on time and say hello to the host |
| Rounds | Short chats, then you move on | Be warm, curious and brief |
| Notes | You mark who you would like to see again | Be honest, and choose on how you felt |
| Afterwards | Mutual matches are passed on by the organiser | Reply quickly and suggest a coffee |
Source: Typical format as described by organisers; individual events vary. Our editorial summary, 11 November 2026.
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What to say in a few minutes
Skip the life story. You have a few minutes, so aim for a warm hello, a simple opener and one real follow-up. Ask what they have been up to lately, what they like doing at weekends or what made them come tonight.
Share something small about yourself so it feels like a trade. A line about a hobby, a place you love or a funny thing from your week is enough. People remember how you made them feel more than any fact you told them.
Listen properly. The person who asks one good follow-up question is usually the one who gets remembered. Keep your phone away and look at the person in front of you.
Avoid heavy topics. Exes, money and big opinions are better saved for later, if there is a later.
Before you go
- Read the organiser's page for the age range, the format and the venue.
- Choose something comfortable to wear that you feel like yourself in.
- Eat beforehand and keep to one or two drinks so you stay sharp and relaxed.
- Pick three easy questions and one short thing to say about yourself.
- Go with an open mind. You are meeting people, not passing an exam.
Follow up quickly. If you matched, message within a day or two and suggest something easy, such as a coffee. A short, friendly message beats a long one.
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- Cravnn editorial guide, written by the Cravnn team (checked 11 November 2026)
Questions
Is speed dating worth it?
It can be, especially if you find it hard to meet people. You meet several people in one evening with little pressure and you only share contact details with mutual matches at most events. Go with realistic hopes and treat it as a way to practise meeting people.
What should I wear to speed dating?
Something comfortable that you feel like yourself in, and that is smart enough for a night out. Avoid anything you will fidget with, and pick colours you feel confident in.
What do you say in speed dating?
Start with a friendly hello and an easy question, such as what they have been up to lately. Share one small thing about yourself and follow up on one detail of what they say. Keep it positive and light.